
Rob Bell was recently named in the top 25 of most influential Christians in the United States, and he certainly seems to gain a lot of attention for both his teaching and writing. In Bell’s first book, ‘Velvet Elvis,’ he looked at some really wide issues of faith and life, but here in his second book, he narrows that focus down to the topic of sexuality and its connection with human spirituality.
In ‘Sex God,’ Bell argues that despite the fact the church often doesn’t talk about sex, both sexuality and spirituality are fundamentally connected and so you just cannot talk about sex properly without talking about God. Similar to his preaching style, Rob Bell writes in a conversational manner, with short and often witty paragraphs, and provocative chapter titles designed to draw your attention such as “God wears lipstick,” “Sexy on the inside,” and “Leather, whips and fruit” – well, they certainly managed to gained my attention!
Throughout this book, Bell attempts to peel back the layers of why we act the way we do, and to connect our spirituality with everyday life, and our everyday life to God our Creator. Bell makes the point again and again that ‘sex’ is not an act within itself, but instead points to something much larger and more spiritual about human beings and reality.
The first part of the book argues that “our sexuality is our awareness of how profoundly we’re severed and cut off and disconnected.” Secondly, Bell says that our sexuality is “all of the ways we go about trying to reconnect.” (Both quotes from p. 40). He deconstructs some of the very damaging myths about sexuality that our society propagates (excuse the pun), and outlines how these myths can destroy our intrinsic God-given identity. I especially enjoyed his definition of freedom (from sexual lust and more) on p. 75 where Bell states that it isn’t about being able to have what we crave, but rather freedom is being able to go without what we crave and be fine with it.
In the second half of ‘Sex God,’ Bell also deals with the concept of marriage and says that, “The point of marriage isn’t marriage. It’s a picture.” Bell points to the deeper context of sex and marriage as mission. Dealing with words like submission, headship and sacrifice, Bell scales the redemptive beauty of the wedding gospel found in Ephesians 5. The vulnerability of marriage can be a little scary - “Being naked is terrifying,” Bell writes, but our desire for someone to accept us no matter what speaks to a deeper need, a need for the unconditional love of God; a love that’s worth the risk. In these chapters Bell also handles the hoary question of “submission in marriage,” and the book is worth reading for his thoughts on this alone.
Don’t make the mistake, however, of thinking this book is only for married couples. Bell attempts to deal with the full scope of sexuality as an expression of human hunger for intimacy with ‘something more and someone else.’ ‘Sex God’ is a thoroughly enjoyable beginning primer on sex, marriage, and God, and is written in a charmingly simple manner. I might disagree with a few things he says here and there, but on the whole this is an excellent read.



